Another snow day

Hmm, I seem to manage to update on Sundays and Wednesdays. I have no idea why.

Today is another snow day. Our kids have not been to school for a full week in over two months. Sigh...I guess we have ice under our snow. It's very pretty but I really miss the routine. T and I laid in bed this morning and tried to figure out what day it is. This is Wed. right?

R and JT are finalizing some of their apartment stuff today and trying to figure out when the army will move their stuff. They don't have a lot but it is here and it's taking up space and they would like it there and we would like the space.

A turns 17 this week. Zoiks! Where has all the time gone?

Please pray for the Livesays as they seek out God. Also pray for the many families who recently brought children home from Haiti. It's a BIG adjustment. We still have not heard from J's birthmom if you could keep that in your prayers too. Thanks!

The snow is still here

And so is the ice. Our "dry creek" is running, even under the snow and ice.

Some of the smaller trees are bent over with the ice.

The "redneck open sleighing" has been good this time. We haven't ruined the bottom of the sleds. That's J behind A on Lady.

This is what happens when it rains on top of snow and then freezes. It's hanging over about 3-4 inches, maybe even 5 in places.

J sledding behind the house.

Well, several of the families from our O have their children home. When the director gets her steam back, she'll head back down to try to get the other 12 who were already matched with parents, visas. Her husband is trying to find suitable housing and may have found something but hasn't heard back from the owner yet. We'll see. I'm still praying that all the children who were already adoptable before the quake will get humanitarian parole. Check this blog out; www.debraparker.typepad.com Pray for Ronel, our O's 12 and the rest of the kids. One of our O's kids is stuck in Miami. How about that? He got to the states and they won't let him go home.

R is planning on heading west tomorrow. My dad will ride/drive with her and then fly back. That's the current change subject to plan. It's a shame that these kids can't be together since they're married and he's deploying on the 21st. Sigh...I'll keep you posted.

Several home or on their way

The O directors made a late Sunday decision to go the airport and get out of Dodge. They loaded up the kids who had visas and managed to get them on two different flights. They were supposed to go to Miami on Monday but instead ended up in Orlando on Sunday night. Zoiks! They were able to get the kids fed and comfortable and then to Miami and waiting parents late Monday or early Tuesday, I'm not sure which. Some are home already. Hal is still in Haiti with the remaining 47 (and nannies) looking for suitable housing.

I had another one of those "why are you fighting me on this and why are crying about taking a shower!?!?" moments with J tonight. He drains me sometimes. I yelled at him and I already know I shouldn't have, so don't worry. I told him he was going to loose tv time if he didn't change his attitude. I don't know exactly why the shower is a trigger for him. I had to change the shower curtain in the kids' bathroom to a clear one. Anyway, when he got out of the bathroom I asked him how his attitude was and he nodded his head. I asked him again if it was better and he nodded again. This was our exchange after that;
Me-What are you afraid of?
J-Not'ing.
Me-Why don't you like to take showers?
J-In Haiti, I don't take showers.
Me-What? You never took a shower?
J-In Haiti, I only take showers on Saturdays. I only like to take a shower on Saturday.
Me-Well, remember when you didn't change your socks and your feet stunk? Your whole body would stink if you didn't take a shower more than once a week.
J-blank stare
Me-Why are you afraid to take a shower?
J-more blank stare
Me-Do you have a bad memory from the shower?
J-(nodding) I'm afraid dat someting will come and ...(puts his hands around his neck)
Me-You're afraid that something will strangle you?
J-Yes.
Me-Has anything ever tried to strangle you in the shower?
J-No.
Me-Where does fear come from?
J-satan.
Me-What are you supposed to do with your fear?
J-(mumbling)Fear go away.
Me-You're supposed to say 'I rebuke you fear in the name of Jesus'. Let's hear you say it.
J-mumbles it
Me-Louder.
J-mumbles it louder
Me-Yell it out! (yelling) I rebuke you fear in the name of Jesus!!
J-(yelling) I rebuke you fear (looks at me and smiles) in de name of Jesus!!

Then we stomped around and smiled and laughed because we have power over fear in Jesus' name. Hallelujah.

So, apparently the kid has a fear of being strangled in the shower. Movie? Feeling vulnerable? Small space? I don't know what the original trigger was but before his next shower, which will be less than a week away, we will be practicing again, "I rebuke you fear in the name of Jesus!"

Our evening was much more enjoyable after that.

Some from J's O coming home

The O director from J's O has been at the embassy since Thursday morning and has finally been able to get visas for 56 of the kids. These are ones that have been in the process for quite a while now. There are 22 more to go, hopefully before Monday morning when they are supposed to fly. Those are the ones who have been matched with parents but no papers submitted. That will leave about 25 who are adoptable but haven't been matched yet. I'm praying that if it's the Lord's will, that bunch will get to come to the US too. There have been several inquiries about adopting them.

I don't really know what to tell you about adopting them, if they get to come. I guess the first steps would be to get a home study done and a dossier put together and to fill out an application. The application can be found at http://www.hishomeforchildren.com/

Before you commit to adopting one of these, think it through, pray it through. Be positive that this is what the Lord would have for you. We can tell you loud and clear that parenting an adopted child is nothing like parenting a bio child. NOTHING. J is pretty good most of the time but it certainly is not easy. He's very needy, especially for his age. He doesn't act his age at all, acting more like a 6-7 year old. Read up about RAD. Read up about parenting an older adopted child who has been through trauma. J is pretty good and I credit a loving first mother for him to be able to attach to us and show empathy. He also has a conscience and can hold eye contact. I mention those things because they are things that he would not be able to do if he was having trouble attaching.

Please pray for the people of Haiti. Consider giving to one of the organizations that I mentioned around Christmas time. It's the people who were already on the ground that are getting things done. Read their blogs and see what they're doing.

Wed.

Well, we heard from T's parents and they are fine after this mornings 6.1 "aftershock". They said that a lot of people are being sent to Cap Haitian on buses and trucks and they have unattended injuries and the hospitals there are already full. She said Cap Haitian, Milot and Limbe hospitals are full. They are praying that they can get their containers delivered. They have much needed supplies on them and they've just been sitting on the docks waiting for paperwork. Sigh...

J's O is working hard to get their kids out. I'm not really sure how the humanitarian parole works but some of the kids may come out even if they don't have adoptive parents. Please don't quote me on that as it's a huge question. We'd like to keep up with what happens to J's friend. And we still haven't heard about his birth mom. If anyone is interested, especially if you are "paper ready", let us know if you'd like info as it becomes available on how to adopt these kids who are not already in the process. Leave a comment with contact info or keep checking the HIS Home website at www.hishomeforchildren.com .

I've had people ask me if I'm angry that these kids are coming home all of a sudden after we waited for 4 years to get J home. My answer is NO. Any child coming home is good. I'm thankful that J was already home and I'm happy for these parents if the kids get to come home regardless of when they started the process.

We have been reading "Adopted and Loved Forever" at bedtime the last few nights. J is really into that book right now. The other night he asked me if adoption is really forever because he knew of a kid(s) that was sent back to Haiti. Last night he asked T if he did too many bad "tings" would he get sent back to Haiti. Oh my, squeeze our hearts a little. T told him no, that we love him. Then, wanting to lighten the mood, he told him that we might send his dirty underwear back but not him. J laughed and all was well. There is a lot going on in that head of his.

Things have changed for R and JT and she will not be leaving Friday as originally planned. Sigh...it will take a couple weeks or more to in process and a lot of things are still up in the air. I'll keep you posted.

Earthquake-how can I help?

We have had many people ask us how they can help out the people of Haiti. The most needed thing is monetary gifts. We've heard on the news about scammers so I'll tell you of some missions that I know of and that are established. At J's O they are staying outside in the corner of a church yard. Both houses were damaged too much to be safe. The director has an EMT background and is busy helping injured people besides taking care of kids. They have not heard from all of their nannies so they don't know if they are safe or not. They are taking donations on their website at www.hishomeforchildren.com Another idea is; T's parents are expecting an influx of people in their area and we know they will do all they can to help those people out. Their blog is www.davisinhaiti.blogspot.com They have links to WOMI (who their support goes through) and MFI who flies missionary and humanitarian aid. Another idea is the Livesays who work with World Wide Village and with Heartline. Links to their sites can be found on the Livesays blog at www.livesayhaiti.blogspot.com I stayed with the Livesays overnight when I was in Haiti last year. They are wonderful people. And another group that is doing a great work in Haiti is Real Hope for Haiti at www.haitirescuecenter.wordpress.com I don't personally know them but I've followed their blogs for quite a while. One more option is the Apparent Project. These are the people that were house parents for J and we stayed with them when we were in Haiti to pick J up. Their site is www.apparentproject.blogspot.com Those are all ways that you can help.

We haven't heard about J's birthmom. There are two different adoptive parents with plans to go into Haiti next week bringing supplies and food with them. They have both said that they would try to find out about his birthmom.

In other news, J's team lost their first game today. Sigh...it seemed to bother the coach more than it bothered J. He didn't get a lot of play time but when he played he did pretty good especially considering we were in KY when they had practice this week. It was a close game and very intense at times. As long as he enjoys it, that's what's important to us.

We went up to JT's grandparents today. J loved it. He got to ride on a 4-wheeler with R and drive the Gator with Pawpaw. He couldn't reach the gas pedal and I thought they were all (dogs in the back too) going to have whiplash because he kept hitting the gas and slipping off and hitting the gas and slipping off. It was funny.

T and Pawpaw will be taking R out to CO on Friday, if nothing changes. It's the army and JT hasn't been "inprocessed" yet. He says it's beautiful there. I hope they get to stay.

That's all for now.

We're home

We are home from JT's graduation. That was very emotional. He is at his new base now and R will be joining him, possibly next week. I'll post pics when I have more time.

My dad and two other team members are almost home. I haven't heard what their take on the earthquake is yet but I do know that they had enough rain that they baptized someone right in the road. They couldn't get to the river and this person wanted to be baptized so they baptized them right in the road. My brother and nephew will be flying home this afternoon.

Our local paper wants to interview all of us.

The Livesay children that had passports are in the states now. Keep checking their blog, the RHFH blog and the Heartline blog and also the Rollings blog. I know most of these people and when I look at the pics they post, I recognize some of the places. I've been in the women's center at Heartline and had dinner with the McHouls. It's surreal to me. J has not said any more about his birthmom. We have someone who will be checking on her next week. We did hear more from the O and the boy's house is damaged more than originally reported and they will be needing to find another place to house them. Keep praying for the people of Haiti. To try to imagine 100K people dead is beyond me at this point.

earthquake

We are in KY at the hotel. We just got back from the graduation dinner. The actual ceremony is tomorrow.

We've been watching the news about Haiti and J just asked me if his Haitian momma was dead. I told him that we haven't heard anything yet but we've asked for info about her. He seems fine with that and is on to cartoons. Poor kid. I really wonder what's going on in his head.

Keep checking the links I've posted previously. RHFH has some new pics up with another update. We haven't heard anything more from J's O.

Earthquake part 3

Well, we haven't heard anything new from Haiti other than other blogs. The Livesays, rescue center and Heartline are all updating as they can. www.heartlineministries.org/Blog20.aspx http://www.livesayhaiti.blogspot.com/ www.haitirescuecenter.wordpress.com
Of course, there are lots of news stations reporting about it too. The fatality numbers could be in the 100K's. It's hard to imagine. We have not heard info about J's birth mom.

We are in KY getting ready to go to JT's graduation dinner. J and I spent about an hour in the hotel pool. He loved it.