J is what would be considered a "poverty orphan", in other words he has a birth mother who loves him but was unable to provide for him and chose adoption. We suspect a couple other contributing factors but it boils down to, she didn't have resources to care for him.
Does living in a more affluent country make us better parents? Does his birthmom love him any less because she couldn't provide for him? These are difficult questions that we think about.
I recently read this post by Tara Livesay; http://livesayhaiti.blogspot.com/2013/04/primum-non-nocere-first-do-no-harm.html It brought those questions and feelings up again. I don't have any good answers but would encourage anyone considering adoption to take a look at these things before they adopt.
For us, I just have to believe that we were doing what God led us to do and that He has a purpose in having J in our family. We love him so much and are glad that he's doing so well.
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